Monday, November 29, 2010

Inspirational Mondays - "Compassion"

Amidst all the recent issues on bullying I was compelled to write this week's "Inspirational Mondays" post on compassion and being kind to one another.

We all know that being teased or picked on is a part of growing up. It's kind of a rite of passage and let's face it, it's one that we all wished we didn't have to go through. It's not fun, it's cruel and even though the majority of the time it may only involve words, words can carry weight to kids who are trying to find themselves and who are trying to fit in or learn how to deal with hormones or other puberty issues.

I'm not sure why it's gotten so much more aggressive these days, nonetheless it must be stopped. In my opinion it has to start at home. We must take the time and effort to teach our children about having compassion for others. We can't afford to assume that "they get it." Let's not wait until a problem arises, take a moment to have a simple discussion with them about this issue. Too many children are taking their own lives and are being tormented for being what others may consider "different."

Remind your children that there is only ONE judge and that's God so NO one has the right to place judgment on others, especially not another child. Tell them that God loves us ALL no matter our skin color, sex, class, etc. We are ALL God's children and should be treated with love, compassion and respect.

You may not feel like this is "your" problem but you never know when "your" child will be affected by this.
So instead of waiting until it becomes a problem, have a little chat with em. Even if they never have to deal with being bullied, they may be able to reach out to a child who is being bullied or even help stop a bully. You just never know...

God wants us to know:

"All of you be of one mind, having compassion for one another; love as brothers, be tenderhearted, be courteous." - 1 Peter 3:8 NKJV

Have a wonderful day everyone! I wish you all a blessed and prosperous week. :-)

Monday, November 22, 2010

Inspirational Mondays - "Have No Fear"

Have you ever felt ashamed or fearful of something you've done or the person you've become?

My pastor preached a very poignant message recently about the fact that we tend to let fear or shame take such control over our lives that we block out all the positives and blessings God may have in store for us.

If that's you then I want you to just "LET GO AND LET GOD!"

God says that no matter what you've done and who you think you are, he will forgive, restore, protect and bless you. He wants you to repent and bring your troubles to him for him to fix. It's what he loves to do. He wants us to be able to live our lives filled with joy and not with fear or shame.

Letting go allows God to work in tremendous ways. Don't stay stuck in your fear/shame. Pray about it, let it go. Ask God for forgiveness then forgive yourself and truly leave whatever it is that had such a strong hold on your life behind.

This week's Inspirational Quote is:

1 John 1:9, "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from ALL unrighteousness."

I wish you all a blessed and prosperous week.

Happy Monday Ohana! :)

Thursday, November 18, 2010

Munchkin # 3's Birthday pics

My 3rd lil man turned 1 recently and we partied it up big time. It was pure fun. :)

We teamed up with his girlfriend's parents and combined their parties. We opted for a Mickey n Minnie theme and it turned out super cute.

Here are a few pics of the festivities...

Cute ain't it? ;)

Birthday boy and birthday girl...

Loving her Minnie ears...

He wasn't too pleased with having to wear the Mickey ears... lol

Getting his smash on with the smash cake...

Tons of smashing going on :)...

All the fam enjoying the smash cake...

Monday, November 15, 2010

Inspirational Mondays - "Acceptance"

List 1
  1. Beautiful
  2. Compassionate
  3. Generous
List 2
  1. Stretch marks
  2. Nasal Voice
  3. Thick thighs
Each of these lists contains words that describe me. Although I love and accept list 1, I sometimes find myself working hard or obsessing over list 2. I end up frustrating or overwhelming myself with trying to change the things on list 2 which goes completely against God's intention for my life.

My point in making these lists was to point out that we all have good and bad lists but for some reason we tend to focus more on the list with the negative aspects rather than accepting and focusing on the list with our positive attributes.

Why is that? Why is it so easy for us to put energy and work into changing things that make us feel bad about ourselves rather than embracing the good? I'm not saying that we should'nt always strive to better individuals but there should always be a balance and we should always be mindful of the things we decide to put our minds to. Be careful that you aren't trying to change the very thing that God intended for you to use as a way to give back, reach out to others or even the very thing that will teach us the lesson of acceptance within ourselves.

I'm not fond of my thick thighs but it shouldn't stop me from going to the beach in a bikini. In fact I should be grateful and embrace them because it enhances my curves, which I love.

We don't live in a perfect world and although God wants us to always do good and be better people, he also wants us to accept the things he's given us and not go over board with trying to change ourselves.

This week's inspirational quote is a very popular but poignant quote:

"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference."

Happy Monday Ohana!

Have a blessed and prosperous week. :)

Monday, November 8, 2010

Inspirational Mondays - "Kindness"

Have you ever felt like you're stuck on a hamster wheel?

There are times when I wake up feeling like I'm stuck on a hamster wheel. Sometimes I feel like I'm not truly showing up in my own life. My to do list or goal list just seems to be getting longer and longer and the time seems to be flying by without me getting a chance to catch up. I focus so much on my wants, my needs, my family, my thoughts and so on...

I've gotten so caught up with what's happening in my world that I sometimes lose track or block out others and that's just not fair. It's also totally against God's design for us. If he wanted us to just focus on ourselves then he wouldn't have created us with the capability to meet, greet, talk, hug, kiss, love, and cuddle.

So recently I've decided that every time I get this feeling I'll make it a point to help others. Even if it's just to open a door, say hi or bye, smile to a stranger, donate to a certain cause, I just want to help someone. I also decided that I'll do this strictly out of the kindness of my heart and not to expect any sort of acknowledgment or praise.

Often times people seem to think that if they help someone then they should be rewarded. The simple fact of helping isn't enough for some reason. Why is that? I'm not placing judgement at all because I've fallen victim to this way of thinking in the past.

When I think about it no matter what my current circumstances may be, somewhere in the world, someone else may be having a bad day, week, month or even year. So if I can be helpful in any way without expecting anything in return then I know that I've done what God wants me to do which is to be kind to others. After all, don't we all want others to be kind to us?

So this week's inspirational quote is a VERY popular yet simple quote:

"So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets." - Matthew 7:12 New International Bible

Happy Monday everyone!!

Have a blessed and prosperous week!! :)

Thursday, November 4, 2010

Munchkin # 3 turns ONE!!!

1 year ago this perfect little creature blessed us with his presence. For the past 12 months it's been an absolute joy to be his mom. He's the sweetest, funniest, and cutest little boy ever (just like his brothers were and still are ;) ).

It's funny because with each of my boys I tried my best to enjoy their younger years because they go by so fast. With this lil man time is REALLY flying by. He brings me so much joy on a daily basis and there's never a day that goes by when I don't have belly hurting laughs from the silly things he does. :-)

SO HAPPY FIRST BIRTHDAY to my lil munchkin!!! Mama loves you and here's to many many more years of pure joy, laughter and lots of love.

Happy Friday everyone!!

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Placing Judgement

Being a mom means having to make sacrifices for the betterment of your child. Sometimes you're placed in situations that you'd prefer not to be in, nevertheless you learn to roll with the punches and the statement "what doesn't kill you will only make you stronger" comes into play A LOT.

One of my regular "mommy tasks" is to go grocery shopping. It's second nature to me, I don't mind it but I often have to do it with all 3 boys in tow. Often times a 1 hr trip can take me up to 2 hrs because I stop to discipline the 2 older boys along the way or I have to entertain my lil man.

Well recently I decided that I wanted to tackle the grocery shopping all by myself so I left the boys with hubby and went shopping. It was great, I actually got to get every item that was on my list. Sometimes when I go with all 3 boys, lil man # 3 expires towards the end of the trip so I end up leaving without some of the items and going back the next day.

During my solo trip to the grocery store I started to remember an incident I had when I just moved to Temecula CA from Tampa Fl. Hubby, munchkin# 1 and I moved to CA in 2003 when I was pregnant with baby # 2. I was so overwhelmed and super scared because I was away from close family and friends most of whom I was used to seeing on a daily basis. I had to really adjust to this new way of living. Not only that, I had to deal with a 3 hr time difference that proved to be a challenge for quite some time.

About 6 weeks after giving birth to munchkin # 2 hubby had to go on a 2 week training mission. I thought it was no big deal since it was such a short period of time. I'm a military wife so I was used to him being away for long periods of time. This time around it would be more challenging because I would be home alone with both boys but I knew I could do it and if it got overwhelming I'd just pray my way through it.

Well one day I took a trip to Target to pick up some diapers and a few other household items. Upon checking out 2 young ladies were staring at me and made a sweet statement about both my boys being so adorable. I smiled and said "thank you." One of them then said "How old is your baby?" I replied "He's 6 weeks old." She goes"Oh that's so young. I replied "Yeah!"

It was now my turn to check out and both girls went to the next register but while walking away I over heard one of the girls saying "Omg, I don't understand how people take their babies out the house at such a young age. I'd be so scared to leave the house." They both started laughing and since they were on their way out the store and I was sleep deprived (lol) I didn't bother to address their comments.

After thinking about it for a second I got really angry and irritated that they would place judgment on me especially without knowing my situation. Did they honestly think my preference would've been to bring my 6 weeks old baby out in public? Did they think that I was that shallow or not good of a mom to not think of the safety of my baby? How dare they not assume that I just had NO OTHER CHOICE!!! Which was the case. I then got angrier at the fact that I was SO far away from family and friends who would've jumped at the chance to baby sit my boys while I run errands.

I tend to over think the safety of my kids at times so the comments made by these girls reallypissed me off that day. I almost wished that I made the effort to say something to them but then I thought to myself "who cares? why am I getting so pissed?"

I guess the overall point of this post is that people have NO idea what's going on behind closed doors. No one knows exactly what someone else may be going through. Don't assume that your life experiences is the exact same way for everyone. Don't assume that the options available to you will be available to everyone else. My most important point is that people should NEVER PLACE JUDGEMENT on others. I'm sure these girls didn't mean any harm but it did put me in a bad mood for a little that day.

These days it would'nt have bugged me at all since I'm in a completely different place but I still feel like people should learn to keep their mouths shut or have some compassion for others situations.

Happy Hump Day everyone!

Much Love :)

Monday, November 1, 2010

Inspirational Mondays - "Through the Fire"

Inspirational Mondays!

Happy Monday everyone!! Here's a little inspiration to start off your week...

Have you ever experienced something and over-reacted only to realize that if you had stopped, taken a deep breath, prayed and ask for guidance and God's will to be done then all would've worked out without any harm being done?

I've had quite a few of those days. I usually end up being pretty hard on myself for falling victim to satan's attempt to sneak in and cause drama. I'm the type of person who hates drama, if I feel a situation coming on, I'll try to avoid it at all cost. There are times when you just have to go through the drama aka "fire" in order to become a stronger individual. Sometimes there are lessons to be learned with certain situations so it's pointless and practically impossible to avoid these lessons. No matter what, it's messy, I hate it and it annoys me. I'd much rather go through life without dealing with too much drama but of course this isn't possible and most of the time after succeeding and getting through a specific battle, I actually give praises to God for sticking with me and never letting me fall victim to satan's "try" on my life. I thank him for his stronghold on my life because he's so merciful and gracious and loves me no matter what.

I'm saying all this because I know that somewhere, someone out there is going through a situation that may seem too overwhelming or you may have done or reacted to something that leaves you feeling like there is just no end in site to the misery. I want you to know that IT'S OK!!! Don't give up, don't give in, don't be so hard on yourself. God will heal you, God will lead you and God will protect you no matter what. All you have to do is turn to him, talk to him and ask him for forgiveness. Ask him to lead you in the right direction and ask that his will be done for your life. It's NEVER EVER too late to turn your life around.

No matter what you've said or done and no matter what others have said or done to you, God will NEVER EVER leave or forsake you.

Here's a great scripture that spoke to my heart, I hope it speaks to yours as well...

"Do not be anxious about anything,
but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving,
present your requests to God.
And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding,
will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV)

Have a blessed and prosperous week everyone.

Much love!!